Talking to Kids About Discrimination and Its Impact
Talking to your children about discrimination might feel daunting, but it’s one of the most important conversations you can have. Whether they’ve personally experienced antisemitism, witnessed it, or are simply trying to make sense of the world around them, helping children understand discrimination — and how to respond to it — will support them to grow into resilient, compassionate and confident people.
Kids are naturally curious and have a strong sense of justice, so these conversations don’t need to be heavy or overwhelming. As a parent or caregiver, you play an important role in helping them make sense of difficult topics in a way that empowers rather than frightens.
This guide offers practical ways to introduce these discussions and support your child as they build empathy and resilience.
How to Introduce the Topic of Discrimination to Children
While kids often notice differences from an early age, they don’t usually attach meaning to them. They learn what those differences “mean” from what they see and hear around them, in family, friendships, media and school.
That’s why parents and caregivers are in the best position to shape a healthy, respectful understanding before harmful ideas can take hold.
- Use Age-Appropriate Language: Keep explanations simple for younger children. You might say, “Sometimes, people treat others unfairly just because of who they are, and that’s not okay.” As they get older, you can explore deeper conversations about bias, history and justice.
- Talk About Fairness: Kids understand fairness. Frame discrimination in those terms. For example, “How would you feel if someone left you out just because of your name or background?”
- Use Real-Life Examples: Point out examples in books, movies or things they see day-to-day. If they hear about an antisemitic incident at school or in the news, talk it through in a way that helps them understand what happened and why it’s wrong.
- Emphasise Diversity and Inclusion: Teach children that differences in religion, culture or background are things to be respected and celebrated.
Signs That a Child May Be Affected by Discrimination at School
Children don’t always come out and say they’ve experienced discrimination. Instead, they may show it through changes in mood, behaviour or routines. Being able to notice these signs gives you a chance to offer support early on.
Watch for:
- Withdrawal or Anxiety: Your child may seem more quiet or clingy than usual, avoid talking about school or shy away from activities they previously enjoyed.
- Reluctance to Attend School: Frequent complaints of stomachaches or headaches, or fear about certain classmates or teachers, can sometimes signal an unsafe school environment.
- Changes in Mood or Behaviour: Outbursts of frustration or sadness, or unusual defiance, could be a response to feeling excluded or mistreated.
- Drop in Academic Performance: Feeling unsafe makes it hard to concentrate. If your child’s schoolwork is suffering, it could be a sign that something’s bothering them emotionally.
- Loss of Interest in Cultural Identity: If they stop wearing symbols they used to love, avoid Jewish celebrations or seem eager to blend in at the expense of their identity, they may be experiencing peer pressure or discrimination.
If you notice these changes, create a calm and open space to talk.
Ask gentle questions, like “I’ve noticed you’ve seemed a little quiet after school lately. Is something bothering you?” Let them know you’re there to listen without judgment.
Helping Children Build Empathy and Resilience
Empathy and resilience are tools that help kids both understand others and stay strong in themselves. Children who feel secure in their identity are better equipped to deal with challenges and more likely to stand up for others.
- Model Inclusive Behaviour: Children watch how you treat others. Use respectful language, challenge stereotypes and show kindness to people from all backgrounds.
- Encourage Open Dialogue: Let your child know they can ask about anything. If the questions are difficult, answer honestly in a way that is age-appropriate and reassuring.
- Teach Problem-Solving Skills: Help them brainstorm what to do if they see or experience discrimination. Should they speak up? Ask for help? Support a friend? Practising these scenarios together can help them feel more prepared.
- Normalise Jewish Identity: Celebrate Jewish traditions at home, talk positively about culture and faith, and encourage participation in community events. Feeling proud and connected to their roots helps build confidence.
- Validate Their Feelings: If your child experiences discrimination, don’t downplay it. Let them know their feelings are real and important. Assure them that what happened was wrong and they did nothing to deserve it.
How Educators Can Approach These Conversations
The responsibility for educating kids about discrimination doesn’t sit solely with parents. Teachers and school staff play a vital role in creating environments where every child feels safe, valued and included.
- Create a Safe and Respectful Environment: Discuss values like respect and inclusion regularly. Set clear expectations for behaviour and make sure students know discrimination isn’t tolerated.
- Use Stories to Teach About Bias: Use books, films or classroom discussions to explain discrimination in age-appropriate ways. Host cultural events and invite speakers to share diverse experiences.
- Be Proactive, Not Just Reactive: Don’t wait for an incident to start these conversations. Include Jewish holidays and history in your teaching, and make space for respectful questions.
- Take Children’s Concerns Seriously: If a student shares an experience of discrimination, respond with care. Listen, investigate and act to support them. Work with the child’s family and leadership teams to find a meaningful resolution.
Resources for Children Facing Discrimination
If a child is struggling, it’s important they know they’re not alone and that help is available.
- School Counsellors and Anti-Bias Programs: Many schools have programs that promote inclusion, as well as staff who are trained to support children navigating discrimination or bullying.
- JH Kids: Run by Jewish House, JH Kids provides emotional and practical support for Jewish children and families. Services include occupational therapy for children with Autism, ADHD and other conditions, psychology support, NDIS assistance and resilience-based workshops for kids of all ages.
- Jewish Youth Organisations: Groups like Maccabi, Bnei Brith and PJ Library give Jewish kids a sense of belonging and cultural pride. These spaces help them build friendships, confidence and a positive connection to their identity.
- Books and Media That Celebrate Jewish Identity: Stories are powerful. Curate books and films that showcase Jewish culture, kindness and standing up to discrimination. PJ Library offers excellent age-appropriate recommendations.
- For more resources or support, please visit Navigate Antisemitism.